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Welcome to The Spice with Chilli Rox – a weekly advice corner from the sassiest seductress in the pole world. If you have a burning question you would like to ask Chilli, send it in an email to:

chillirox@auspoledancersmag.com.au

 

I'm thinking of doing porn but one thing is stopping me
I’m thinking of doing porn but one thing is stopping me

 

Dear Chilli,

I have been thinking about getting a job in adult films. The only thing stopping me is what my mum would think as she already hates that I’m a stripper. But porn is something I could really see myself doing as a job. How do you think I should go about this situation?

Sexy Fun Time Lover

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Dear Sexy Fun Time Lover,

 

It’s your life so you need to make choices that are going to make you happy. If you honestly believe this is a career path that you want to explore I say go for it.

 

Be considerate to your mum’s feelings, she is just worried about you and that will probably never change. Remember no matter how old you are you will always be her baby and she just wants the best for you.

 

Also you can choose to keep your new career choice to yourself if you think the truth is too much for her to handle. Or at least until you feel really confident that this is where you truly want to be. Then you can break it to her gently and explain that you are a confident open minded woman and you are happy, and I’m sure she will understand.

 

Good luck,

 

Love Chilli X
I'm worried about joining a class!
I’m worried about joining a class!

Dear Chilli,

I have been poling for four years now, I am completely self-taught on a home pole. The main reason I have avoided classes for so long is because I suffer really bad social anxiety. I can almost make myself sick just thinking about going into a classroom environment. But I’m feeling now that if I want to progress I need to bite the bullet and go to a class.

My question is, do you have any advice on how to find a pole class where the environment is friendly and welcoming? If I were in Sydney I’d come to your class! But I’m based in Victoria. I’m happy to drive anywhere if it means I’ll have a positive experience, I’m just really stressed about going into that first class. And I am afraid of having a negative experience and being forever turned off going to another class. What do you think I should do?

Nervous

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Dear Nervous,

 

Believe it or not I was absolutely petrified stepping into my first class and I know almost every student starting out feels this way – so hopefully that makes you feel some weird comfort!

 

Your situation is a little unique because you are not a beginner so you will need to be assessed to see which level will be most beneficial to you. I would suggest a private lesson to start with and then once you figure out which class is best, you can explain to your instructor how you feel. She will probably be able to suggest some instructors that she thinks you will gel with. Some instructors are really nurturing, while others push super hard and eventually you work out exactly who works with you best.

 

Honestly some of my all time favourite pole dancers are in Melbourne so you are completely spoilt for choice. Pole Divas, Pole Princess, Physipole, Blackbird, Kylie J, etc – SO many great studios with awesome instructors.

 

Take that step, you won’t regret it and you will meet so many amazing people that you will kick yourself for not doing it years ago!

 

Good Luck,

 

Love Chilli X
My boyfriend is so unsupportive!
My boyfriend is so unsupportive!

Hi Chilli,

I’m in a long term relationship of over six years and I love my partner. The problem is, he isn’t really supportive of my pole dancing. He’s into his own sport (football) and I often go watch his games. But he seems to almost make fun of my sport as though it’s “not a real sport”. He has never come to watch me perform, and makes no attempt to hide his boredom when I show him my videos. I competed five times last year and I actually placed in two of the comps. He didn’t come to any of them, and just complained that I wasn’t around enough because I was “training all the time”.

Do you think he will ever start being supportive? Or should I just make peace with the fact he might never appreciate that side of me?

Feeling Blue

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Dear Feeling Blue,

 

I completely understand why you’re feeling disappointed, especially when you are supporting him and making the effort to go and watch his games.

 

I would definitely express my disappointment… Talk to him about how you feel, tell him how important pole is to you, and tell him how much it would mean to you if he could come to support you.
Hopefully he will understand and lift his game a bit, I mean 6 yrs together is awesome so you obviously mean a lot to him. Talk to him.

 

Good luck,

 

Love Chilli xx

 

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